4/30/2014

Vlog Family Update

I did an update on our family on my Youtube channel! Check it out here!

So, I have a Youtube channel that I started a year ago to be a beauty channel but I recently decided that I am not the best beauty guru that ever lived and it isn't really my passion. So a couple days ago I decided to change it. Now I'll be doing vlogs, family fun we have, I'll answer questions that anyone has about anything, I will also be doing random videos, like tags and challenges (if I feel brave enough, I'll do some singing ones, because I like to sing). So check it out and let me know if you have a request for anything or a question you want answered. I'll do my best for you guys! :) 

Loves!

Have you ever wanted a Youtube channel of your own? If you had one what would you do it about?

4/23/2014

5 Ways to Ease Stress in the Middle of the Week

Photo Courtesy of Mind Body Green
I was thinking lately that I need some stress relief. I am sure you all feel the same way too sometimes. So I came up with five ways that I like to ease my burdens and feel relaxed in the middle of the week. Or anytime really. So here are some ways to relax and get through your week.

  1. Bath time! I LOVE me some bath time! Just fill up the bath to a really warm/almost too hot temperature, add some bubbles, burn some candles that are lavender scented and grab myself a book and I am relaxed! It really is one of my favorite things to do. (Even if I'm not stressed.)
  2. Reading! I love to read! Since getting married (to a husband that gets a wee bit frustrated when I am reading and tune him out. Seriously though, how can I not?) and then having a baby, I find it really hard to sit and read for hours on end like I used to. So reading now is a luxury, which means it is extra special and does an extra good job of relaxing me and distracting me from my worries.
  3. Yoga! Yes, I am a yoga-er. I have found yoga to be a soothing and fun way to relax and release some stress and tension. When you get stressed you tend to carry that stress around in your muscles in the form of knots. Yoga helps release that tension and therefore relieve some stress. Also it is an exercise, which releases endorphin's (or "happy hormones") and keeps you healthy, if done regularly, and can help keep you happy. So take a time out and do some yoga everyday. It's always a win win.
  4. Massages! Before you get all "I can't afford that!" on me, listen up! I have only had one paid for massage in my 25 years of living (I didn't even pay for it) and, even though it was nice, you can still get a good relaxing massage at home. Have your spouse give you a massage, ask a good friend too, have a child or parent give one to you. It doesn't have to be a clothes-off-under-a-sheet massage (unless its your spouse and you are planning for an intimate night. Which makes this suggestion a double bonus). Wear your clothes. Just have them massage your back or feet or as far up your legs as you are comfortable with. (Legs hold a LOT of tension!! As does your behind, but that one is totally up to you.) So just get a massage and feel how good it is! Also try a massage school, I hear they are much cheaper. 
  5. Movie Time! Let me paint a picture for ya: you are curled up on the couch in your pj's, possibly with your significant other. You both have a warm cup of cocoa and a snugly-wugly blanket and you pop in an ol' favorite and snuggle in for the next 2 hours for some much needed relaxation. Honestly? How could you NOT feel relaxed with that scenario? Got to love it!
Photo Courtesy of The Dating Divas
  • BONUS! I am going to try meditating as a way to relax. I have recently become aware of the voices in me head not shutting up when it's time for bed. And by voices, I mean me worrying about all I have to do the next day, what to post next and what to do with my business to make it better and so much more.
Well if any of you have tried meditating I want to know how it went, what you did, what made it work and how you learned more about it! 

So tell me, what is your favorite way to relax? Comment below! I'm dying to know! 

Hugs!

4/21/2014

10 Things My Readers Don't Know About Me

Today I feel like sharing some things about myself that you might not know. So let's get to it!
  1. I got engaged 3 weeks after I met my husband. True story! My husband and I met March 2nd and got engaged March 24th. Then we got married June 4th. Best decision EVER!
  2. I have wanted to be a mom since I was very little. I have always wanted to be a mom. Now that I am one, I can't think of anything else I'd rather do.
  3. I love ducks! Weird, I know. But ducks are just so cute! Also, I collect rubber duckies. I'll have to get them all together and do a picture soon.
  4. I love dogs! We have a pet Labrador/Golden Retriever mix and she is awesome! She is 4 years old (as of April 19th). She is also sooo good with our 7 month old baby boy! She loves him! 
  5. I sell Mary Kay! I started selling Mary Kay the end of January and so far so good. I have enjoyed the girl time I get and the friendships I've made. I have always loved using Mary Kay, now I sell it! (Need anything? Go to my website! www.marykay.com/darcistout Check out our products!)
  6. I am addicted to chips. Seriously. They are my one vice. When trying to diet/cleanse/eat better, they are the one thing I can't not have. I try but after a few days I give in. AH! They are just too good!
  7. I love my life! I am happy with my life. I love being married to my husband and I love our beautiful baby boy and our dog Marley. As long as I have them I can get through anything. 
  8. I want 8 children! You read that right. EIGHT! I love love love children! Especially my own (who doesn't). I want lots of kids and a big family! Maybe I'll even have more than 8. Who knows?
  9. I want to adopt. Someday I want to adopt some little baby too. Maybe 2-3 wonderful children. We will see.
  10. I plan on homeschooling my children. Yup. I plan on hopping on the home-school train. I have many reasons for this. Mostly though I want the freedom to teach my children in the way I find best.

Well there you go! 10 things about me! Tell me something about you! What are some of your favorite things?


4/18/2014

Why I Think Couples Shouldn't Tell Others About Their Problems

Okay, so first off, I'm not a professional anything, I didn't go to school to learn this and I don't have any degrees or anything. The following is all my opinion.

Recently I was talking to a friend (names retracted for privacy), and she was venting a bit about how hard finances are right now. That doesn't really surprise me, a LOT of people are struggling with money, including me and my hubby. Crazy, I know. Anyways, her and her hubby have been having issues and I was there to listen to her.

But it got me thinking, "how come people like to talk to someone else about marital problems?". You see, while they, like many others, have money issues, one of them talks to the parents about it. Normally that doesn't sound like a bad thing. But when one of you goes and tells your parents that it is frustrating you and making you mad and upset and you are just hurting over it, then things get bad.

When you tell someone your money problems so you can get help, that is different then complaining about and blaming your spouse for your money problems. If you need to, go to someone for help to fix your budget and find one that works for you.

Short of that though, don't complain to someone else.

Here are some reasons why:

  1. It Hurts. The short and simple truth. NO ONE wants to feel like they are a bad person and not doing all they can. Seriously though. It really can effect the emotional state of the person you are complaining about. They think that you think very little of them and that you can't trust them and that they are no good. That's a bad thing to feel about yourself.
  2. It's Personal. Your finances and how you budget them is personal. I know I said earlier to get help, but help with how to budget isn't the same as help with your money. You decide where your money goes, you decide what kind of debt you want. Someone else can just advise you on how to budget best, you turn around and make it personal. That being said, don't go complain to someone else. 
  3. It Turns Them. When you complain to someone, a close friend or family member, especially parents, you can expect that person to automatically be on your side and defend you and to start to think less of your spouse. If you want your marriage to last, do not complain to someone else about something you need to discuss with your spouse. 
  4. It Turns You. After a long time of complaining and nagging and seeing the bad, you start to only see that and eventually it turns you against your spouse. You don't want that. You really don't. 
I have a picture that we got for our wedding that says, "Marriage requires falling in love many times. Always with the same person." To fall in love with someone over and over, you have to forgive the faults and move on. If it's harder said then done, then talk about it with your spouse and figure it out. Don't go complain to someone else and feed your negative feelings. By doing that you will more than likely end your marriage. Instead talk to your spouse and figure out how to compromise.

Well that's how I feel about that situation and I feel it can apply to more than just financial problems. 

What are things you do to help with marital stress? Have any tips with how to budget?


4/09/2014

No Spending Challenge

This last month (March) my husband and I did a No Spending Challenge. For the whole month we didn't spend any extra money than we absolutely had to. Well we did very good with it, I think. We only bought one thing for our son that we didn't HAVE to have. It was just a few dollars so we gave in. But it was the only thing we bought that we didn't need. So in my book, we did great! :) We didn't eat out, which wasn't too hard since we didn't really do that before. We didn't go shopping for anything but diapers, wipes, baby food and food for us. We also only drove around when we needed to so as to save gas. We even turned of as many lights and electronics as possible to save on our power bill. (We wont know how much till later this month.)


Okay, so you are probably wondering what exactly we got out of this? Well I can tell you, we didn't save a ton of money, or even any money. We had just enough to pay bills, gas, tithing and baby stuff. It was crazy to us that even with not spending, we still had no money left. But then I thought about it. I discovered that because of our faith in paying our tithing we were able to survive the last few months without extra income. I don't know how it happens, not exactly, but I know that by paying our tithing we were blessed and taken care of. I love that our Lord will do that for us! Yes, we go through hard times, but sometimes it's just a matter of having faith that we can get through it, knowing and seeing the little things in our lives that are blessings from God.

We also have a realization that we need to be better with our budget. We are trying, and struggling, with it. I am still keeping track of our budget by a system introduced to us by our friends. It is still the best way for us so far. I think our biggest problem is that we have a hard time checking it diligently and making sure we are on track. So while we work on that, we will continue to not spend more money than absolutely necessary. We will do this until it is habit. I think everyone should. Here are some reasons why I think it is good for everyone:
  • Savings: you learn to save up your money and ultimately have that fall back/emergency fund for when you desperately need it.
  • Smarts: along with saving money you learn the value of a dollar and know how to save for purchases rather than charge a credit card and go in debt.
  • Freedom: you gain freedom from debt. Instead of spending money on things you don't need you end up saving for and paying off your debt. You also get freedom from guilt, no more buyers guilt on big ticket items that you knew you didn't need but wanted. When you have the money to pay for it and it is set apart for that purpose, there is no guilt in buying that wanted item. It also gives you the financial freedom to save up and go on trips with your family. When you are broke or in debt you cant really have the fun of going places with your family.
  • Confidence: you can gain confidence in yourself and your abilities.
I have already seen these and more ways that doing this is going to help me and my family. My husband and I are having fun finding ways to not spend money but still have family fun.


What are some ways you found to have fun on a budget? And if you tried this challenge too, what did you get out of it? I'd love to know! Leave me a comment below!

My Testimony

In the spirit of General Conference this last weekend I thought that I should bear my testimony for all of you. I want you to know that I know without a doubt that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints is the one true church on the earth today. I have a testimony that President Monson is a prophet of God and has been put on this earth to lead and guide us to our Heavenly Father. I know that Jesus Christ is the Savior and that he atoned for our sins and died for us. I have a testimony of tithing and the blessing we can receive by paying it. I know that no matter how far gone you think you are or how much you have sinned, you can return to Heavenly Father through repentance and obedience to the Lord. There is always hope! Fear not and delay not your repentance.
I also have a testimony of faith. If we do what we are supposed to do then we will be blessed! Whether in this life or the next, it will happen. I also want you all to know that I love you. I may not know you but I assure you I love you. I will not hate and I choose to believe in the goodness of mankind. I also want you to know that while I don't know everything, I don't understand everything and I can't tell you why everything happens the way it does, I know that God has a plan. We may not ever understand something until after we have moved from this earth into the spirit world, but all things have a meaning and purpose. I am excited to be apart of this church. I am proud to be LDS. And I love my God for blessing me and giving me the trials I need to grow and learn and become closer to Him.
I have a testimony of temple work. I know that it is a wonderful thing for obedient saints to do. I have felt the love of those who I have served while in the temple. I have a testimony of scripture study and prayer, I feel a significant difference in my life when I pray and read the scriptures versus when I don't.

I leave these things with you to ponder and pray about in the name of Jesus Christ, our Savior.