12/19/2013

Ugly Sweater Party 2013!


We had our awesome Christmas party yesterday and it was fun! We had some friends come over and played games, ate deliciousness (one recipe found here), and had a white elephant gift exchange!
Okay so sadly only my husband and I and my parents wore ugly sweaters. But the gift exchange went well! I got some candy in a cute Disney princess box and my husband got a hat and gloves that were made for a women, haha. Obviously I took the hat and gloves and shared my candy with my hubby.
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Next we played a game called In A Pickle. It was a pretty fun game, and simple enough that younger preteen kids could play too! (The box says 10+). Basically you have to be the person that plays the biggest noun on the pile of cards... yeah okay there is a little bit more to it then that, but it's harder to explain then it is to play. So just go play it and have a blast! :)
Well, until next time! I hope you all enjoy your holidays! :)

12/17/2013

Top 10 Favorite Holidays!

Okay so I know I have slacked off on my top ten posts but here I go again. Since it is that time of year, I figured I would do a post on my favorite holidays! :) So hear we go!

#1 Christmas!!

DUH! Who doesn't love Christmas? I love it because its a time for family to come together and have a great time giving each other gifts, making each other presents, laughing, joyousness, fun, family... Seriously, its the best! :)



#2 Thanksgiving!
Yup! This food-filled holiday is my close second favorite. I LOVE food! I love to make it and eat it and share it! I also love all the wonderful family time that comes with this holiday too.




#3 Valentines Day!

Okay so yes I am a romantic. :) How can I not be with my wonderful husband being so amazing? But also this holiday is a double threat for me. Its also my birthday!! :) Yesiree! So not only do I get to be romantic with my hubby, but I also get to have a party! (Of course we celebrate my b-day with friends and family on a different day.)

Mario, Peach, Toad and Yoshi

#4 Halloween!
It's fun to dress up and have a party with friends where we all look awesomely ridiculous (or ridiculously awesome) in our costumes. Also, now that I have a kid, its going to be MORE fun! Taking him trick-or-treating and dressing him up. I love it! :)

#5 April Fools Day!
This is a fun day in my family! Fun to play some pranks and just get a good laugh with family. It's also my daddy's b-day! (No Joke!)

#6 4th of July!
Yay for patriotism! :) I love this country we live in, I am proud to be American! But I also love the parades, and breakfasts and fireworks. I also LOVE all the cute decor you can make for this holiday. (All holidays actually.)


#7 New Years!
I like staying up all night and partying with friends and family with lots of food and snacks, waiting for the countdown to a new year. I also like the promise of new beginnings, new starts, and the goals that go along with it.

#8 St. Patrick's Day!
I love all the green and orange. My family has a party with green and orange foods and just gets together to play games and have fun!

#9 Birthdays!
Ok, so not a holiday, but always fun and enjoyable. I love celebrating my family and friends birthdays with them. And lastly...

#10 Family Made Up Holidays!!
Ok, not real holidays either, but who doesn't love a date made up by your family to celebrate and enjoy together? Seriously it is my favorite! Mostly because no one else knows about it and its like a secret celebration between you and your family.

12/16/2013

Miscellaneous Mondays!

I am starting a new thing called Miscellaneous Mondays where I just blog about whatever I feel like at the time. It'll be awesome :)
Okay so today I am going to tell you about our families living room sleepover! Last night my hubby and I decided to have a little camp out/sleepover in the living room. We had a blast! We brought out the blankets and put them on the floor to help cushion it, then we had all our pillows surrounding us and watched Polar Express in our PJ's while cuddling together. Our cute cuddly little man joined us and then went to sleep in his swing while we watched the movie. It was a blast and a half! And I would definitely suggest doing this for a fun night. Try it with and without your kids! :) I'm sure it'll be fun both ways!


12/15/2013

Blog MAKEOVER!!!

Okay gals! I want to remake my blog, and I need your help! I want to come up with a new name and look. I would also love a little logo of my own, but first let's think of a new name. I don't know what to do exactly but let me tell you about myself and then YOU can help me decide! So hear it is:
My name is Darci Stout, I am 24 and I am married to the greatest man for me, David, and we have a wonderful 3 month old son named Haden and a awesome black lab mix named Marley. We do outdoors stuff together, I like to cook (but I have a cooking blog already Inventions of the Not So Chef). I like making crafty things, and I am still learning to make crafty things. This blog started out as a project for school and turned into something I like doing. I want to put tips and tricks, crafts, things that I do with my family and more on my blog. I LOVE animals and want to one day have an animal rescue in my back yard haha (I wish). I also love to learn new things from other bloggers and hope to be able to give advice and ideas to others. My favorite color is purple and my favorite animal is ducks! And tigers!
Okay so that is me. Please help me think of a fun new way to make over my blog! :) Feel free to ask questions and such. Oh! And did I mention if I choose your suggestion I will feature YOUR blog (if you have one) on my blog so you can get more followers! :)
Thanks everyone!

11/12/2013

Top 10 Favorite Things to do at Christmas Time:

Since the holidays are upon us I thought I should write about my 10 favorite things to do around Christmas time. And since I love all of them so much they are in no special order. Well here it goes:

#1. Any Act of Service:
I love helping people out anytime of year but it seems even more special around the holidays. (Maybe because more people focus on it?) Anyways, I love making stuff for people, visiting with those who need company, making meals for others, donating old clothes, anything that comes up really. :)  What is your favorite act of service?

#2. Cookie Party!
I love baking around the holidays! And having a cookie party is an awesome way to get more recipes from others for more yummy cookies to make next time! So how about it? Who wants a cookie party? And what is your favorite cookie?

#3. Ugly Sweater Party!
Speaking of parties, I love ugly sweater parties! They are so fun! You can have a grand old time laughing at each others sweaters, and an even greater time coming up with the awesome sweater in the first place! :) Not sure how this party came about to begin with, but I know everyone loves it! :)

#4. Pie Baking!
Like I said, I love to bake, and my favorite thing? PIES!! :) Seriously, who doesn't like pies?? Weirdos, that's who! Haha My favorite pie is pumpkin, as is my husbands, but I'll try any pie! What is your favorite pie?
#5. Caroling!
I LOOOOVE to sing!! :) And Christmas songs are like the best songs to sing!! I Find them highly enjoyable! And I have a lot of favorites, one of which is Oh, Holy Night. Plus you can dress up and give cookies to those who answer the door. Very fun! What is your favorite holiday song?

#6. Gift Making!
I love making gifts for people. Homemade gifts are the best! To give and receive! And especially to make! What is your favorite gift to make? And to receive?

#7. Gift Wrapping!
I love wrapping gifts and coming up with creative ways to wrap gifts. I like putting things in something that would throw the person of of what they are really getting. It can be a fun surprise!

#8. Decorating!
Decorating for any holiday can be awesome! BUUTT Christmas is my FAVORITE!!! I love the tree and the ornaments, the stockings and I am super excited for all the cute things I can make with my kids! :) Yippie!

#9. Drinking Hot Chocolate
One of my favorite drinks, you ask? Hot freaking chocolate! I LOOOVE it!! Seriously! It is the best!I drink it all year round, but even more so when its cold outside. I love mint hot cocoa, my husband loves regular milk chocolate kind. Add whip cream and we have heaven. What is your favorite?

#10. Watching Christmas Movies!
I love watching Christmas movies. My absolute favorite is Elf, it is hilarious!!! I love cuddling up with my sweetheart and drinking hot cocoa while watching funny, heartfelt and wonderful movies about this time of giving and family. My family always watches A Christmas Story too, its a family favorite. What is your favorite movie to watch around the holidays?

So there is my list! What are some of your favorite things about the holidays? Leave your answer in the comments, I would love to hear what you have to say!

11/05/2013

Top 10 Tuesday!

I am stealing an idea from a friends blog (she gave me permission) and starting a top 10 list for Tuesdays. Today I am going to start with my top 10 favorite ways to exercise. Okay so I don't know many people that love to exercise. Who does?! Seriously! It's hard work! But I have tried to be better at exercising and so I was inspired to write a blog post about it. So, TA-DA! Here is my list!

#10. Pilates:
I put a lot of thought into my top ten and honestly, Pilates is the least favorite of the favorites. Why? Because it is stinking hard! Seriously! Fun, but hard! I went with my sister to a Pilates class once and we had fun. It was a great workout, I really felt good after, but it forced me to use muscles I was unaware that I had haha. I would recommend this type of workout to someone who wants to be pushed to the limits in a fast paced environment.

#9. Boxing:
Next up is boxing! I went once on a date (weird date but it was a fun workout). I actually enjoyed boxing. I only went the once but I would sure enjoy going again. Especially with my hubby, it would be awesome! :) It was a good workout for sure! And it was good for self defense.

#8. Denise Austin Videos:
Thanks to my mother for this one! She introduced me to Denise Austin. You can find her videos on youtube. (look them up). She has different workouts, but they are fun! I like her country dancing one haha :)

#7. The Tracy Anderson Method
I recently bought a video at Walmart of Tracy Anderson's workout routine. It was hard, but really fun! It had some dancing techniques to it. Very fun! Try it out! Seriously! :)

 #6. Swimming!
I love to swim! I did it in high school for a year and I had fun! It's a leisurely way to exercise. You can take it easy but still feel good and still get a workout. It's a good all over workout too. If you haven't tried it, you should! Plus you can go swimming with friends and have fun and get a workout at the same time!


#5. The Curves Workout
I used to go to curves with my mom and it is amazing! Their routine is a fun easy way to exercise. Try out their week free trial. It is pretty dang fun! :) Nice, easy and fun! (I can't stop saying fun lol!)

#4. Water Aerobics!
Okay, so no this isn't the same as swimming. Water aerobics is more fun! I did it while I was pregnant. I highly recommend it. I loved it! Everyone should try it! :)

#3. Walking
I am not a runner. I have asthma and it is super hard for me to run without feeling like I am going to faint, and puke. So there fore I don't run. I do want to try and get better at jogging and maybe someday do a 1K or something. Anyways, I think walking is a great exercise. It is easy and can be anywhere you want! :) Plus I can take my baby and my dog with me :)

#2. Dancing
Dancing is a great way to have fun and lose weight. That is basically all there is to say about it... haha just kidding! Anyways, even if you don't like to go out dancing with friends you can always pump up the tunes while you are cleaning and get your groove on by yourself! So fun! Plus you can learn any kind of dance and it is exercise! :)

And the #1 workout I love: YOGA!!
Yoga is fun and relaxing and awesome! :) I love it! Seriously, so fun! And its super fun to go to the park and do yoga in the sun! Also its fun to do it with your friends! The best workout ever! Well that's all! What are your favorite workouts?? Leave a comment and let me know.
And no I can not do that yoga move. 


Have a great day! :)

8/20/2013

Struggling for Motherhood

   So it's been a while since I have posted. That would be due to the fact that I am lazy. HAHA! Okay that isn't entirely true. While I have been tired and ready to be done being pregnant, I have also just not known really what to write about. But I was thinking, since I am SOOOO close to having a wonderful baby boy, I will write about what it took for me to get here.
   Disclaimer: I know that other peoples struggles are way WAY worse than mine. I understand that some people can't even get pregnant and that others have tried for way longer than me with no success. I don't mean to belittle anyone else's struggles or make light of the fact that some people do or do not struggle with this. Everyone has their own story. But this is my struggle and is a very personal one to me. Please be courteous and remember that I am not trying to offend anyone.
   Okay, so here is my story. It starts before I even got married (I didn't know this till later). So I have Mild Insulin Resistance, a condition that can do all sorts of weird stuff to one's body. (I'll do another post about this some other time and go into more detail.) So I didn't find this out though until just last year. My wonderful husband and I decided while we were still engaged that we would wait about 6 months or so to start trying to have children. FAIL! As soon as we were married we decided that we were just so happy that we wanted kids right away. Okay, well that didn't happen (obviously). So we decided to try and get pregnant. We tried keeping track of my period and ovulation schedules as best we could. Sadly though I have never been "regular" with my periods. Some people are lucky and know down to the day when they are starting. I was lucky if I guessed the right week. Sometimes my period would come early (like at three week intervals) and sometimes it would come late (the latest I went was I believe 2 months without it). So you can see how keeping track and trying to plan accordingly would be hard.
   I read things online about how to get pregnant easier and ways to track and plan accordingly to try. Most sites told me that it took average couples a year to get pregnant and that most doctors wouldn't even start testing for reasons why you couldn't until after that time. So my hubby and I decided to just keep trying and wait a year before we asked a doctor why we couldn't get pregnant. We both thought that surely it wouldn't take that long. Well, after about 8 months of trying with no success, we were getting a little downhearted about it. We both tried to keep our heads high, but with so many false alarms and negative pregnancy tests, it really was starting to bring us down. With my period out of whack we never knew whether or not I was pregnant or just late again. I will admit that it did make me cry at times.
   I have always ALWAYS wanted to be a mother. (Seriously, ask my friends.) I started thinking maybe I would never have a child that was mine and David's. Side note: I am not against adoption at all! In fact we want to maybe adopt some day and we would treat that child the same as all the others in our household, whether from us or not. But thinking that your body doesn't work how it should and that you can never have the experience of going through the pregnancy yourself, well, it does something to you. I would love any kid that I was blessed with the same as any other kid, but I so wanted to be pregnant and experience that feeling at least once in my life!
   Well a year came and went and still no baby. I didn't have health insurance so we couldn't go to a doctors office right away and figure out what as wrong and how to fix it. So about 4 months after the year mark we were able to get an appointment and go in to tell the doctors what was up. They did some blood work and weighed me and everything. They also told us not to worry too much because it can take people longer than a year to get pregnant. We tried not to worry and waited for the results. Que finding out I have Mild Insulin Resistance. When my doctor saw this she said that it was more than likely that that is why my periods have always been unpredictable and why we couldn't get pregnant. It's hard to time the right times to try when you don't have any idea when your body is actually ovulating or not.
   Among other things, Insulin Resistance can cause a women to have weird ovulation schedules and can make it hard to get pregnant. At this time I weighed 175 lbs. Not extremely overweight but for my height and age: above where I should have been. So my doctor told me to watch what I eat and start working out more to try and lose some of the weight and be at a healthy range for getting pregnant. This was in October. While I tried to do more exercising and watch what I ate, I really wasn't doing that good of a job. David and I had decided that we were going to stop stressing out about getting pregnant and just try to focus on us and life at the moment. We enjoyed each others company and tried to just deal with work and school at the moment.
  Well along comes January and with it, weight loss! I was finally trying a little harder to be better at exercising. (I am horrible a eating well... seriously, chips are my kryptonite.) Anyways, I lost about 5 lbs in just a few days. Then I lost another 5 lbs in another few days. I thought I was on fire! Then I got the flu. I was like, well crap! Now I cant work out and I will gain the weight back! Well, I thought that until I threw up a few times. Then I was like, maybe I wont gain it back. Anyways, I went to the doctors to get tested to make sure I did in fact have the flu and get medicine to treat it. Well, yeah I had the flu. My doctor asked me when my last period was and if I thought I might be pregnant. No, I did NOT think I was pregnant. (I was late but I had run out of the medicine they put me on to make me regular and so I thought that was why.)
   Okay, well because I had the flu they wanted to see if I was pregnant so that they could know which medicines to give me. I said okay, peed in a cup and then waited patiently to be told for the umpteenth time that I was not pregnant. Well, much to my surprise, she came back in and said that I was in fact pregnant. .... I was speechless! My eyes started to water and I just sat there looking at her. (I had a mask over my face due to having the flu, so she couldn't see that I was smiling.) She just went on to tell me that the test was an instant yes and that I needed to set up an appointment with a baby doctor (she wasn't one). So I left thanking her and basically running to the car to tell David that I was carrying his child in my tummy. Poor David was in math class at the time and extremely frustrated with what he was learning. I texted him to get out of class and call me. He wasn't happy about it. He called me and the first thing he said was: "this had better be important." (Not so much as a "hello, how are you?") That's okay though because all I could say was, "I'm pregnant." Which instantly knocked him off his feet (almost literally) and made him change his attitude promptly. He was SOOO excited! He told his teacher and because she is awesome, she said that class was ending early. So he rushed home to congratulate me and hear the details about what happened at the doctor's office.
  Pregnancy hasn't been a breeze, but its been a huge blessing for us. And being SO close to having our baby boy in my arms has made me that much more aware of how blessed I truly am to have created this life that's inside me. I am so thankful for this opportunity. I can't wait to get started! :) Not going to lie though, I am a little anxious about the whole thing. I know I'll make mistakes, but I pray that they are only small ones and nothing too big to handle.
  Thanks for reading guys! I will do my best to upload another blog soon! :)

7/09/2013

My Struggle With Depression

 So as I have mentioned before, I have had some struggles with depression. I was never “diagnosed” or given medicine for it, but that would be because I didn't have money or insurance to go to a doctor and get any. I was a poor college student living off of slightly higher than minimum wage when I first got depression. I have had it twice. The first time was the worst. The second, not as bad, but still not fun. So if you are anything like me, didn't have the money or insurance to spend on seeing a doctor, but you still believe that you are depressed, then I have some “at-home” remedies for you to try.
Okay so background story for you: the first time I got depressed I was living on my own for the first time. I was about 4 hours away from my family. I lived with my best friend, which was helpful, don't get me wrong, but not enough, sadly. I was working full time at a 24 hour grocery store, where I occasionally worked really late hours. I also was going to school full time (I was taking 15 credits). On top of the stress of working 35-40 hours a week (sometimes till midnight), and going to classes five days a week, I had a demanding social life. You might be like “Psh! Poor you! At least you had a social life!”. Well, you are right. At least I did. But that made things harder. Especially for an outgoing, bubbly, “life of the party” type such as myself. On top of that I don't like letting people down or saying no. So I often was out trying to party and have fun. (Let me clarify, I didn't drink, smoke, do drugs, have sex, or any of those other things that people might think of when they think “college party”.) My type of partying was going on dates, seeing new movies with friends, hanging out, swimming, hot tubing, eating out, playing night games in parks, going to Walmart in the middle of the night, etc. I LOVED being out and about and having fun.
Okay, so you might be thinking that my life was pretty great and I had no reason to be depressed. Well, at first it was. I had lots of friends with whom I could hang out, I was in school, I had a job, and a calling in church (almost forgot that). I was blessed. But I started to get overwhelmed. I was tired from working late and getting up early. I was getting behind on school work, which was highly discouraging. I had to stop hanging out as much and that made me feel left out. My thoughts about how people perceived me and what they thought of me started to go down hill. I was on a slight incline to depression that was only getting more steep and more slippery. I started thinking that no one liked me. I felt that because I couldn't always go to the activities and “parties”, people thought I didn't like them. For someone like me who doesn't like conflict or negative feelings (towards me or others), that tore me apart. I was trying to please my friends, teachers, church leaders, boss, roommates, basically everyone I came in contact with. It was hard.
I know the feelings and thoughts I had weren't rational. Like anyone really expected me to always be available to hang out. My friends knew I was in school and working and was busy. They didn't hate me for it, but for some reason I started to hate me for it. I wanted to be out there having fun! Not at home doing homework or at school or work. I really didn't like feeling left out. I also didn't like being tired all the time. Plus, with trying so hard to do everything, I got sick a lot. (I don't have the best immune system and I have other health issues which contributed, but more on that in another post.) I have to say though, at the time, everything I felt and thought was completely within reason. I honestly believed the things I would tell myself. I thought I was worthless. Why continue school? Why do homework if I was going to fail anyways? Why work? I should just leave. No one would care.
I want to clarify something real fast, I did NOT get to the point that I wanted to commit suicide. I did, however, get to the point where I wanted physical pain. My thoughts about leaving were more about moving somewhere else. I would often fantasize about packing up, getting in the car and driving till I ran out of gas. I didn't know where I would go. I didn't care. So long as I could start over somewhere where no one would know what a failure I was. I was too afraid to do that though (luckily!) So I stayed and continued getting more depressed. I am sad to say that what really set me over the edge was a guy. We had kind of dated off and on. I wanted something more, he didn't. What really upset me though, was that he didn't want to date me anymore. Sounds like a stupid reason to get so worked up over, huh? Well, when you are happy and in a healthy place emotionally, then yes it might be a stupid thing to get so upset over. It would be easier to move on. BUT when you are emotionally drained, physically tired and sick, and feel that no one cares about you in the first place, well then, a guy not wanting to date you is the worst thing ever! It only reenforces your belief that no one likes you, that you are worthless and that you don't even deserve to be happy.
After this guy broke up with me, I cried almost all the time. I stayed home from work. I was luckily just out of school, which I passed my classes, but not with good grades. I stayed in my room because I didn't want people to see me as the failure I was. When I wasn't in my room I was sitting (literally sitting) in the shower letting hot water run down my back while I cried as hard as I could. I stopped doing anything productive. When I tried I only put in a fourth of my effort and so when I didn't do good I could reenforce the fact that I sucked. (Sadly, depressed people will do this. You get to a point where you fail on purpose so you can justify the way you feel.) I stopped attending church as much, and when I did go I stayed for sacrament and that was it. Around this time is when I started wanting to hurt myself. Now not many people now this but I would take the sharp edge of my body wash container and scratch up my thighs while in the shower. No one could stop me while I was in there. They didn't know. I didn't do enough damage to cause scars. I don't think I even made myself bleed. But I did hurt myself. I caused scratch marks and red rashes to appear on my legs.
It was about... I want to say a week or two later, when I finally could not take anymore. I called my sister (now living in Idaho with my family), and told her I was done, I couldn't do it anymore, I wanted to go home. So she told me give me 5 hours and I will be there to get you. (It only take 4 hours but she had to get someone to split the driving with her and get some stuff taken care of so she could come get me.) I won't ever forget that my sister was amazing enough to stop everything and come get me. Her and a good family friend were on their way within the hour. I, meanwhile, packed up all my stuff, quit my job (yes I still had it. They were very good to me.), talked to my bishop about why I was leaving, and then said goodbye to my roommates (one of which was my best friend), and I was on my way as soon as my sister and friend were there to get me.
Now this is where the healing started. Getting away from the problem was a huge step in the right direction! This isn't always the case though. Sometimes it is better to stay and figure things out where you are. I had just reached a point where nothing around me was helping. (Except my best friend, she kept me together as long as she could.) I needed to be home. Being with family was one of the biggest reasons I got out of depression. Without their love and support I wouldn't have gotten anywhere. So I would suggest being around family, if you can. That would be my number one thing to do. (In some cases, this isn't helpful. I had a friend who, when living at home, was worse off depression wise, than when living on her own.) But for me, it was what needed to be done.
Here are some ways, thanks to family and friends, that I have learned to deal with depression:
  • Wake up early. It doesn't need to be super early, eight o'clock works fine. Just don't stay in bed all day. Make yourself roll out of bed and take a shower.
  • Get ready for the day. One thing I learned, thanks to my wonderful mother, is that when you stay in your pajamas all day or you don't do your hair and get ready for the day (even if you aren't doing anything), you feel a lot worse than if you did get ready. So get up, shower, feel refreshed and make yourself look nice. It helps a lot!
  • Exercise! While having many health benefits, exercise releases endorphins into your body and helps you to feel happy. Plus when you work out it makes you feel productive and helps you stay healthy. And when you are healthy, you feel better. (I personally liked yoga and Wii Fit.)
  • Talk to someone! This is important! Whether it be a professional, family member, friend, church leader, or whatever, it helps to talk. It keeps you from letting the feeling build up inside you to the point where you explode. Pick someone you trust and talk to them. Tell them how you feel. And be honest, if you lie or hold back you are only hurting yourself.
  • Keep yourself busy. Try to come up with a new hobby or perfect a skill. In your down time try reading, sewing, crocheting, playing an instrument, helping out a friend, scrap-booking, serving someone else or anything else you can think of. On top of giving your mind something else to think about you will also feel productive because you have accomplished something. Even if it's small.
  • SERVE! I cannot emphasize this enough!! Serving others can and will make you happy. Maybe not at first, it may take a few times or more of helping out someone else, but trust me when I say that service will make you happy. You will be helping someone who needs it more than you. You get to be Christ-like and make someone happy. You will get numerous blessings for it! It is one of the best things you could do.
  • Work on yourself. This might sound like the opposite of service, but let me clarify. I do not mean that you should become selfish and think about only what you need and want. Complete opposite! When I was depressed the second time, it was again because a guy broke up with me. This one I actually liked though, the other one I think I just liked the idea of having someone like me. Anyways, it hurt bad when he broke up with me, I thought I loved him and we were going to be together forever and all that. (No hard feelings though, I know my dating him and then him breaking up with me was part of the Lord's plan for me and him. Besides, now I have the BEST husband I could have ever even hoped for.) Anyways, when he broke up with me I went to my dad one night and he told me this: forget why this guy broke up with you, you my never figure out why and its not important. Instead, work on yourself. Make yourself a better person. Work on making yourself someone you want to be, someone that the Lord wants you to be. Best advice ever! I have since tried to better myself and not focus on what I can't control.
The last thing I want to say is read uplifting talks, say your prayers, and read the scriptures. Staying spiritual can really make a difference. It will help you better yourself, bring you closer to God, and make it so you have the Holy Ghost with you always, and He will give you feelings of peace and comfort.
Well, that's my story. That is how I got through depression twice and how I stay out of it now. I hope it helps someone out there. And if you have any questions about anything feel free to ask! Also subscribe to my blog so you can be alerted when I upload more. Also, look out for my other struggle posts I'll be posting and for answers to your questions. Again, feel free to ask anything you want! :) Love you all!

A great talk on getting through depression:

6/16/2013

My Struggle

So my beautiful sister-in-law just decided to start a blog about her struggles with weight loss and PCOS. It is a very personal thing for her to be sharing. I was inspired by her bravery to start posting about some of my personal struggles. I have had struggles with quite a few things and I want to share in the hopes that I can help someone else with their struggles. So this post is to open up the subjects I want to talk about. If anyone has questions about any of the things I will be talking about, I will do my best to answer and help any way I can.
So the things that I want to talk about are: depression, I have had a few struggles with it. I also want to talk about my struggle to get pregnant, my struggle with Insulin Resistance, and other things. I will continue to write things about my spiritual experiences and other things I feel prompted to write about. Again, if you have questions, feel free to ask!
Thanks! I am excited to start writing about these things!

Daddy Knows Best

Happy Father's Day to the greatest dad ever!
I want to just post a little something today for my wonderful father. He has always been there for me, helping me, encouraging me to do good, teaching me, rescuing me from spiders, everything! His hugs make everything better! Seriously though, daddy hugs are the best! There is just something about having the man who raised you and protected you your whole life giving you a hug that just makes everything better. Not only that, my dad has always been there to make me feel safe. If I am scared, sad, mad, or whatever my dad always knows how to make me feel better.

When I got depression (both times) my dad was there to lift me up and help me through it. (So was my mom, sister, brothers, friends... but this post is to brag about my great dad. Not the others.) One time he sat me down in his lap and told me that maybe what I needed to do was focus on working on myself and not worry about what was making me so sad and depressed. From that day on, that is what I have tried to do. I have tried to bring myself closer to Heavenly Father so that I could have His spirit to be with me and I could be happy. I always try to take my dad's counsel to heart. No matter how big or small, I always try to listen and obey. My dad is pretty smart and in tune with the spirit, so listening to him could only help me.

So anyways, thank you dad for all you do! You are amazing and wonderful! I love you so much!

I also want to quickly mention my father-in-law. I haven't known him for as long as my dad (duh!) and I don't even get to spend that much time with him, but I know he is a wonderful man. He has to be! He raised a wonderful son! I want to thank him too for being a great dad to my husband and teaching him all he knows.

Lastly, I want to mention my husband himself. He is a wonderful man! He tries so hard to be good! He isn't perfect, but he is perfect for me! I love him SOOOO much more than I could ever express to him in my whole existence. I honestly don't want anyone else. He is my new spider killing hero, lifter of my spirits, and supporter in everything I do. I love you babe! To the moon and back, for all eternity, with all my heart, might, mind and strength! Thanks for always being there for me and for trying so hard to better yourself for me. I can't wait for you to be a dad. Love you!

6/14/2013

My Calling in Life

My calling in life. What is it? Everyone has one right? That thing you know you were just born to do. Nothing else would fit you better. It something you honestly will love forever. Well guys, I have always (as far back as I can remember) known what I wanted to do with my life. Be a mom. Some of you may laugh or question; “seriously?? You just want to be a mom??”, but yes, I have always just wanted to be a mom. I have always loved the idea of it! To raise and nurture and be the best I can for that loving little life. It’s heaven to me. Honestly, that’s the truth. I WANT to be a mom! And soon I will be!
It makes me tear up a little to think how blessed I am to have a wonderful spirit coming to me in two months’ time. I can’t believe I am being trusted with such a task! I only hope I will be the best I can be. And that motivates me every day to try a little harder to be a little better. Seriously people, I can’t wait!
Also my hubby has found what we think is going to be his calling in life. He wants to be a physical therapist. And the more we think about it, the more we think it is the perfect job for him! He loves to help people and he loves seeing people reach their goals! He also loves fitness and health stuff. I love him for it! He will do great at this.
He is applying to get into BYU-Idaho so he can go into that degree and get an education. We are super excited for these steps in our lives that we are taking. It is going to be an awesome life!

Anyways, have a great day everyone! I hope you all find your calling in life! 

My 2 Year Anniversary!

So I know this post is late. My anniversary was on June 4th. But I am posting this anyways! So everybody better love it! Hehe!
So June 4th marked our 2 year anniversary! And man have I loved it! It has been fantastic being married to the man of my dreams for the last two years! I honestly could not live without him. Now, I haven’t exactly loved every moment, (we have our share of arguments), But I have loved it as a whole. I love that even though we do argue; we make up, forgive each other, and get over it! And THAT is what I want to talk about today.
A little prelude for you: Guess what guys, life isn’t easy! Sometimes it really sucks and you feel like things will never get better. Didn’t know that? Well, now you do! It’s a fact. It cannot be changed no matter how hard we try. Seriously. Sometimes your life will suck. Now, before you go and give up on life, let me tell you another little secret; it gets better! It ALWAYS gets better. No doubt about it! No matter how sucky and bad and horrible your life gets or seems, it will, in fact, get better!
 Don’t tell me it won’t either. Because I know it will! How do I know?? I have been there, done that. I have struggled with depression (more than once, but that’s a post for another time), and I have come back on top. I have also had sucky points in my marriage where my dear husband and have disagreed on something. I don’t mean that lightly; we have had our share of arguments. But honestly, it has always gotten better. And not only that, I take solace in the fact that EVERYONE fights. And if you don’t, well, either you are still in the honeymoon phase or you aren’t fully committed in your relationship.
Okay, okay, don’t freak out on me. You say your 100% committed and you don’t fight and you’re not in the honeymoon phase anymore? Well then you must be pretty lucky to agree 100% with everything your spouse tells you. (Or they agree with you, whatever, either way.) I honestly say, bull crap to that! It takes a LONG time to get to a point in your life and marriage/relationship for there to not be fighting. And I mean like decades! And sadly, most people give up before that point comes. It’s kind of pathetic of people honestly. Don’t get yourself into a commitment if you can’t stick with it! Seriously! Especially not a lifelong commitment! Those are FOR LIFE! (Hence the name: lifelong commitment.)
Anyways, I have a really good friend who is super easy going and amazing! So is her husband! They are perfect for each other. But even though she rarely ever fights with anyone (honestly, she is just super amazing) and even though he tries his best to make her happy, they still have arguments. Not as severe as some people and not as often, but they have them. And if they have had arguments, then everyone has! It is just a fact that people will not always agree 100% on every little thing. That doesn’t always lead to fighting or arguments, but it sure can.
Okay, back to tying in my marriage to all this. I am an imperfect human being, I am selfish, I am mean at times, and I am not always quick to forgive. (Obviously, I have problems.) But isn’t everyone like this? Honestly, take a second and evaluate how you act towards others. Do you ALWAYS think about what others want before thinking about what you want? Do you get road rage? Are you impatient and want things done right now, your way? Do you think the burger King motto applies to your life? Do you get angry standing in line at the store and its taking forever and you think it is the cashiers fault?
Okay, so do I. As I said before, I am not perfect; far far FAR from it. I do all those things above. And sadly I get mad at my husband and take out my frustrations on him. I am SOO lucky that he still loves me. Now don’t get me wrong, he isn’t perfect either. But we have decided to overlook those flaws and work through things together. We have always said that divorce is never an option! (For us, at least. We know some situations do call for it.) I think everyone should have that motto. Never bring it up, never threaten your spouse with it, and never ever think it’s an option. Honestly, it has made all the difference. With that in mind, we have been able to work through a lot of stuff: big stuff, little stuff, and HUGE stuff. (Arguments come in all sizes!) We have also learned how to bite our tongues and not argue when we realized that it isn’t worth it.
My hubby and I love each other dearly; to the moon and back, always and forever, for all eternity, never giving up on one another. But, even being that committed, things are still hard. So we are learning to get through it; together. We have decided that part of doing that is working on ourselves. When we strive to be better people, then naturally we will treat others better, and they will in turn treat us better. I invite everyone to come one this journey with us. Join us as we try harder to better ourselves, come closer to our Heavenly Father, and learn to love completely and be an easier person to love.
I will post all the things we will be doing to be better on here so others can use those to try them in their own relationships. Do not despair, things will get better. And if you have any questions about anything, let me know! Email, or comment and I will do my best to answer your questions. Sorry I am a little scatter brained. I try to make things make sense, but my head runs away with me sometimes.
Okay, last but certainly not least, my hubby and I love being married. We love that soon we will have a wonderful bouncing baby boy to add to the mix. (Honestly, SO excited!) And we just love each other. Life isn’t perfect, but we find the perfect moments in it to hold on to. I wish you all the best in your relationships, now and forever.

Have a wonderful day everyone!

5/19/2013

Humans! Honestly!

Today I was reminded of the one blaring fact that we are only human. We are selfish and ignorant and sometimes rude. We generally don't think about others we randomly meet. We don't think that maybe that person has a loved one in the hospital and that's why they cut us off. We don't think about how someone's child might be crying in the middle of the food aisle because they just fell and hurt their arm. We don't think that others could possibly have it as hard as us and need someone to cut them some slack. 

I am totally guilty of this. I get road rage and yell at the other cars. They don't know I do it but I do. I get mad when someone walks slow in front of me in the store. Or if the lines are really long. Or a light takes forever. Or someone's kid is loud. No one is free of the guilt of being angry for no good reason.

These things I mentioned, they are uncontrollable things. I can't control other people, or stores or traffic. I can't make people be nice to me or let me go ahead of them in line because I'm pregnant and my husband has a broken leg. I can't do anything about it. All I can do is control me.

The way I act and the way I feel about things. That is all I have control of. When this wonderful blessing of a son comes into my life, I can't even control him! I will love him uncontrollably but I will not be able to control when he is hungry or poopy or when his teeth come in. I can only control me.

So when we think this way and change how we see the world and the people in it, will we allow it to change us too? Will we allow it to open our eyes and realize that, no we can not control others but we can control how we see others? We can change our negative mood. We can decide to take a deep breath and slow down before we react. We no longer have to think that life sucks because we can't control it. Because we can control how we feel about it. 

Life can be wonderful if stop trying to control it and live it. Choose to be happy now, and fight to keep it that way. That's not to say life can't be sad or frustrating or irritating. It very much can and will be!! But the way to get through it is to decide now that you will be happy. Then when you need to grieve or be mad you can feel that way but move on quickly instead of wallow in your self pity. And it is self pity after a while. The world won't stop and wait for you. It's going to keep on plugging on and no one is going to think about what happened again. Except you and your loved ones. 

So grieve, be mad, but move on. And realize, that no one is perfect. We all deserve respect and kindness and love. And if we all acted this way then, by golly, the world would indeed be a better place.

5/12/2013

To The Greatest Mother Ever!

My mother is amazing! She definitely deserves this shout out on this special day. My mother has always been there for me and she continues to be there for me today. I love her very very much. I am so grateful to have had her as my mother growing up. She has been an awesome teacher, nurturer and friend. I may not have always been the greatest to her but never did she give up on me. She taught me all about life. She let me fail so I could learn and was there to help me know how to get through those hard times. She has been a constant blessing in my life.

Man, my mom rocks! I just love that she loves me so much and would do anything for me. As I have gotten older and moved away from home and back again I have realized that my mom is just an amazing friend to me. I love getting advise from her and talking to her. She has great advise for me. Also I love that she is there to bounce creative ideas off of. My mother is one of the most creative people I know! She always has a good idea!

I can't wait to be a mom myself and I am super thankful to my mother for teaching me how to be a good one. I hope I am as great as her! Also I am super grateful that my mom will be around to help me with the first child. I will definitely need her wisdom!

I love you mommy! Thanks for all you do!

Last but certainly not least I want to make a shout out to my awesome mother in law! I am so grateful for her and the amazing son she raised. She did a great job and I love her very much. Thanks for raising your son right so I could marry him in the temple! I wish you lived closer!

Thank you! Happy Mother's Day to you! :)

5/02/2013

Worst Day EVER!

Okay so most of you have been updated via Facebook as to what happened to my husband. But if you haven't or you want to know more, read on.

So Saturday started out like any other day. David worked till five and while he was there I ran some errands with my parents and cleaned a little and made brownies for dessert. When David got home from work we went to a friends house for dinner. It was really fun! We had hamburgers, tater tots and, of course, brownies! We played with their adorable babies and they gave us a bunch of baby stuff. It was all going great.

Then suddenly, while the wife and I were talking, there was a loud *BANG*! So, apparently, while the wife and I paid no attention to our husbands, they decided to check out each others guns. (Okay we did know this was going on, but not everything, just that the guns were out.) They were trying to take apart the gun to clean it and it ended up going off. David's friend was holding it, and David got shot. It hit his right leg. Went in right below the knee. David screamed, the friend ran around freaking out and the wife and I sat there stunned.

I was in shock! Everything froze and I thought this was all a joke. Seriously. I was stunned! It wasn't till I saw the blood that I really started to freak out. David was holding his leg and shaking from shock. So I grabbed the towel and helped him hold it, and him on the couch. I was still trying to figure out what was going on and how this happened when the ambulance got there and took us to the hospital. I wanted to cry but my head still hadn't caught up with what was happening, so I couldn't. It was a weird feeling. David was so brave though! He didn't even cry! I love him! He's so strong!

So luckily the bullet missed all the veins and arteries and ligaments. It was great news! His bone was fractured though, but getting shot and walking (sort of) away with just a broken leg and a gun hole? I say we lucked out! It could have been so much worse! He did have surgery on Sunday and they went in and put a metal plate and two screws in. He will be out of commission for a while but he will regain the use of his leg and once we get through the pain and physical therapy, he will be golden!

I am so glad it didn't hit anyone else, especially the babies, they were in bed. I really wish it hadn't hit anyone but I am glad it didn't hit me, for the fact that I would have more than likely lost the baby and that would have been devastating! I tell David he took a bullet for me and the baby. I love him so much! I hate that this happened! But I think maybe it was to humble us and put us through a challenge to bring us closer together. I am also thankful I had already quit work. I wouldn't have been able to work. At all! I needed to be with my hubby! Also this has kicked my butt into gear packing wise. My wonderful mother came and helped me clean and organize and pack. We basically got the house crutch friendly for David, so he could come home. Also we have almost everything ready to be moved in a month. It's nice.

I still wish this didn't happen and I don't know why it did, but I know it did happen for a reason. I do know that I and my hubby are going to make the most of it. We are going to do what we can to be better to each other and just better in general.

Well, till next time, love your family dearly and hold them close! You never know what will happen.

4/26/2013

The Joys (and Not so Joyous) Things about Pregnancy!


Okay so everyone who knows me knows I am no expert on being pregnant. Not even close! This is my first baby and I am only half way through, so I have very little experience or “expertise” about being pregnant. But I have to say, there are some things that I have loved and some things that I have not loved about being pregnant.

Let’s start with the not loved things, get the bad out of the way. Luckily, throughout my pregnancy so far, there aren't a lot of bad things to report on. First off, being sick; I worked at PetSmart up until about two weeks ago. I liked it just fine, that’s not why I left. I left because I am allergic to basically everything in there. I know, I know, I shouldn't have even worked there, but it was one place I could handle working without going out of my mind. Anyways, so I am allergic to stuff in PetSmart that made it so my immune system had a hard enough time keeping up with me. My allergies affected my immune system badly; they didn't just make me sneeze and itch.

So when I found out I was pregnant I worked until David could find a better job and then we both decided it was time for me to quit and get better. Being pregnant took a toll on my body, causing me to be sick almost constantly. In fact, I went to the doctors to check if I had the flu (which I did), when I found out I was pregnant. So yeah, being sick wasn't fun for me at all! Now that I have quit, however, I am doing much better at staying healthy. No runny noses, sore throats, colds, or flues.

Another thing about being pregnant that I didn't like was the constant feeling of “I am going to throw up!” I hate throwing up! (Don’t know anyone that likes it actually). And I hate feeling like I constantly need to. Plus it made me lose twenty pounds; which would have been fantastic if I didn't now need the reserves for the baby. Granted, he is the one that took them so he could grow. (He is two days ahead of his growth schedule. I have a feeling he won’t be a tiny baby.) I could hardly eat at that time and only really did so to satisfy the baby. (They say that eating helps the nausea, I didn't see a huge improvement when I did). Luckily, the sickness eventually went away! Now I don’t get nauseous hardly ever! Except when I forget to take my medicine or run out of it. I have Insulin Resistance so I have to take a pill every day.

One more thing I don’t like is the back and tummy pain. Well, the tummy pain is more ligament pain, but I feel it in the tummy area. Anyways, it is both normal and good that I feel it (according to my doctor). It means the little man is growing; which don’t get me wrong, I LOVE! But I don’t love that it hurts so bad. My doctor said that some women just feel it more than others and that it can be pretty painful. I guess I am one of the unlucky few who feel it more than others. Because sometimes I can’t move for a minute till the pain dies down again. Also I have had back problems for quite a while (years), so the back pain isn't fun either.
Last thing, I also don’t like when my heart races or beats hard. It is kind of scary. I feel it beating super-fast and hard and I just have to take a time out and breathe, sit down, and drink some water. It never last super long, but I still don’t like it.



Okay so now onto the things I LOVE about being pregnant! First off, that I AM pregnant! David and I tried for a year and a half before we finally got pregnant. (It was when we stopped really trying and just had fun that I finally got pregnant). I had had so many “false alarms” that when my period was late this time I just thought it was cause my I.R. medicine ran out again. WRONG! I was preggers! We were ecstatic! SOOOO HAPPY! J It is my favorite thing about being pregnant, other than the joyous little man I get out of it!

Next, I love when he wiggles around inside me and I can feel it! Some days he is super wiggly and some days hardly wiggly at all; but I love it because it means he is in there and healthy and growing. I love knowing he is in there. I can’t wait till he is big enough that David can feel him wiggle and kick too. It’ll be awesome! (Side note, we want to put Marley’s head on my tummy when he is kicking and see what her reaction to it is. Hehe!)

One of my all-time favorite things so far was our last doctor’s appointment! We got to go in and see our little man in the ultrasound. It was one of the most amazing experiences of my life! I won’t lie, I cried a little while in there. I just loved seeing him. I wish that I could go in every day and do that so I could see his little face and hands and feet! He is just so precious to me! I am getting teary eyed just thinking about how much I loved seeing him.

Okay so last but definitely not least, is that at the end of this nine month journey, I get to meet and hold this precious soul in my arms. I am overwhelmed that my hubby and I have been chosen to take care of him. It is one of the greatest blessings I could ever receive; one of the greatest blessings of being a woman. I am honored that I have been given this role in my life. I just can’t wait for a chance to fulfill it to its fullest!
Babies are an amazing blessing; one I can’t wait to have in my arms.

So tell me, what do you love, hate, or can’t wait for in pregnancy?

P.S. I love buying baby stuff! SO CUTE!

4/22/2013

Committed? Or just not?

 My husband and I got this frame with the saying as a gift for our wedding. We have it hanging in our living room so that we can always see it and be reminded of what our commitment was the day we wed. I love this saying because it reminds me that, even though my husband and I are different people and we have different points of view, I have chosen to be committed to him. When my husband and I first married it wasn't the easiest life to get used to. We no longer lived on our own or with roommates, we could no longer do as we pleased. Suddenly we had someone else we had to think about and keep in mind. Now this can be a hard adjustment to make. When you shop for food, you shop for two, you now have to think about where your money is going, and you have to butt heads with this person as you adjust to the little things at home. 

There are so many things you do every day that you don't even realize will be a problem when you get married because you assume that you'll continue doing it your way. That is not the case. No two people do everything the same. There are times when you have to give and times when you have to take. These small things can be the beginning of problems for some couples. Sadly, some people have no desire to change, not even for the one they love; they put their own needs above that of their spouse. Now I am not saying that my husband and I are perfect, we had our struggles, but the one thing we got right was commitment. We decided before we were even married that the "D" word (divorce) would never ever be the solution.

I understand that their are real situations in which divorce is the answer; cheating and abuse (of any kind). But other problems can almost always be solved. Sometimes you can solve things on your own, sometimes you must seek counseling. Don't be ashamed to seek outside help, it can change your life. One thing I don't get is a prenuptial agreement. Why? Are you assuming this wont last? Yes, you are. People that go into a relationship like marriage with a pre-nup are basically saying they don't think this is going to last. Tell yourself all you want that its a "back up plan" a "just in case" safety net. Its not. You and your soon to be spouse are telling each other right then that neither one of you is 100% committed to this relationship. One or both of you thinks it will fail, so you need a plan when it does. Ouch! How little faith do you have in yourself or your spouse? Seriously? Committed people will try to the bitter end to make things last. And often times their is no bitter end; they remain together and happy. 

the Merriam-Webster dictionary says this about commitment:
a : an act of committing to a charge or trust

Wikipedia says this:
Commitment may refer to:


So you may look at these definitions and think "oh well, people promise things all the time and then break it." Well you may be right, not everyone can keep their promises, not even important ones. But to me and some of my friends, committing to another person is more than that. It isn't just a quick "I promise to love you till I don't anymore", it is a promise that no matter what life throws at us, we promise to be together and help each other through it. It doesn't matter if its the hardest thing we ever have to do, when we make a commitment it is for forever. It is a sacred bond sealed for eternity. 

"Marriage requires falling in love many times. Always with the same person."

That is why I love that quote. I am reminded that when times get rough and I am so angry at my husband or he at me or even us at the world, no matter what we never ever think of divorce. We only think of how to get through the obstacle together, how can we return to the love we had before; how can we fall in love again. Granted, we never fall out of love, but we sure as heck don't have it easy and there are times we don't like each other. I will always always always love my husband, but everyday in numerous ways, I fall in love with him again and again.

My friends and family have said this about commitment and what it means to them:

Summer Horenstein I think commitment in terms of marriage relationships means taking your vows or covenants seriously. It means being dedicated to your role as a husband/wife and earnestly striving to do your best. It means you don't want to fail; that you love being in love with your spouse and you want your relationship to last forever and keep getting better so you do what you can to make that happen.

Rob Drollinger I've learned we are blessed when we keep the Lord's commandments, and our covenants with Him, no matter what! It's easy when things go good. It's hard when we're struggling. It is most important for us to be true at all times. Same with marriages. You covenant with the Lord and your sweetheart that you will love them no matter what. You're love for them deepens as you make the choice to love them, even when we're upset and, since we're human, don't always feel like doing that. The Lord will heal us as we remain true to those things we covenant.

April Irish Having been married and divorced, I think commitment means respecting each other's bodies, minds, emotions, and beliefs, and proving to each other that no matter what, they are loved, even when they make mistakes. However, some mistakes are unforgivable (in my mind, abuse of any kind and cheating are the unforgivables). Relationships and marriages take lots of hard work, compromise, and respect to work out, from both sides.

I love what they have had to say because it is all so true. Marriage is a lot of hard work. But being committed is the key to getting through it. Think about this when you are thinking of getting married "can I commit to love this person and work to make it a happy life with them no matter what?". I hope that everyone is willing to do this with someone. Everyone needs to be loved. And if you are married and its been hard, think of the fun times you had when you were first married, before you were married; remember the feelings you had for that person on your wedding day. Those feelings aren't gone, maybe just buried a little. Dig them back up and keep on trying. Things will get better and when they do, you'll love that you and your spouse are still together to celebrate it.

One more thing: I hate the way celebrities treat marriage, like they can get married five times in three years and that's okay. It most certainly is not! No wonder marriage and its meaning is questioned today! We have people who are constantly observed by the world abusing it. Marriage is sacred. It should be treated as such.

Don't give up, instead get up and do better.

4/18/2013

Why do we wear what we wear?

So I have seen a few blogs, posts and Facebook pages asking women of the LDS church to wear pants to church on Sundays. They say it is more comfortable and that it makes them feel more equal to the men. My take on is it that they feel that wearing dresses and skirts is old fashioned and that we should no longer do that. I do not however agree with that. I do not think it is "old fashioned" or a "show of the times". Sure dress pants can be more comfortable and are certainly professional, but we don't go to church to sit around being comfy. If everyone sat around being comfortable the whole time I think that would cause people to lose focus and not really hear what is happening or learn from it; we go to be edified and uplifted. Yes we should act mature but its not our career, we don't need to be professionals at it. We just simple need to participate and learn from it.

To me wearing a dress or skirt is how we show respect and obedience to the Lord. We are commanded to wear the best attire we have. Do to certain circumstances I know that that doesn't always mean dresses and skirts. I also realize that wearing the best they have can make people uncomfortable to come to church because they don't want others to look down on them for what they don't have. I know its wrong to look down on others for what they wear when they can't afford nicer things. I'm not saying anyone should look down on anyone. I am simply writing that in my opinion dresses are better than pants for church attire.

And if you know someone that can't afford the nicer things, donate some of your own to them, get others to donate too, make them something nice or go shopping with them and buy them something nice. If they are asking why you are doing this tell them its because you want them to feel comfortable and welcomed at church. You love them and think that their salvation is worth the money or time spent doing this thing for them. For me that would be true. I think everyone is worth the money and time.

Elder D. Todd Christofferson  has this to say about what we wear to church:


"It offends God when we come into His house, especially on His holy day, not groomed and dressed in the most careful and modest manner that our circumstances permit.
I hope you will think and feel and dress and act in ways that show reverence and respect for sacred things, sacred places, sacred occasions."
Basically look at it like this: on our wedding day, we women want to look our absolute best, like a princess or angel; we want to feel that way too. So what do we wear? Dresses! Big, puffy, lacy, smooth, beautiful, wonderful, soft dresses. They don't all look the same but they all make us feel the same. We feel like we are on top of the world, like we deserve to be princesses! Yes, a lot of your happiness is coming from marrying your best friend, but if you wore a shirt and pants would it feel half as special? No! So therefore, dresses are the best thing we can wear, they make a difference in how we feel. Same goes for church, we want to wear our best so we wear a dress or skirt. Granted, the dresses we wear to church are much more conservative, but that is because we shouldn't wear things to church that might distract ourselves or others from what we are all there for. Which is to learn.
I fully believe that dresses and skirts cause us to act in a manner that is respectful and reverent for church. We hold ourselves to a higher standard of behavior when in a dress. As men do when they wear a suit.
"You are a Saint of the great latter-day dispensation—look the part." Elder D. Todd Christofferson
Some of you readers might think that I am "brainwashed" or too conservative to speak my mind against the church or men. You would be wrong. I am speaking my mind, this is how I feel and what I believe to be true. I have not been raised to be a pushover or to not ask questions and learn. I still don't know everything which is why I will always continue to learn and ask. On everything I write I will know how I feel and what I believe. I don't just follow the commandments of the Lord, I try to understand why exactly we would need to follow them. And sometimes the answer is simply to show obedience to the Lord. Maybe that certain thing we need to avoid wouldn't kill us, maybe it wouldn't even hurt us, but are we willing to follow the Lord's commandments in order to get to the Celestial Kingdom? Sometimes that is all it is about; obedience to the Lord.
I implore you to comment and ask me questions. If I don't know the answer I will find it out and post on it when I do. I want to help clear up any mishaps or confusion that I can for anyone out there.  
If you want more information on why we dress a certain way here are some links you can look at:
http://www.lds.org/new-era/1971/12/standards-of-dress-and-grooming?lang=eng (This one is in regards to BYU standards, but it still has some good points about why we dress modestly.)